If you are in the dating market and are looking for that special guy and want to get him forever, it is all a matter of being the woman men adore. So many women make this effort in completely the wrong way and the cycle of losing decent guys just goes on and on. Is there a secret you should know about? Perhaps!
Our society’s love of the “wafer thin model” look has created pretty unrealistic expectations of the ideal woman. And, it goes the other way too in terms of what a ‘man’ should be. So, the first thing that has to be done is to render a change of thinking.
Historically, there has been a sweeping generalization that the only thing men want is sex. Of course, women have been conditioned to think that if she provides enough sexual intimacy, she can get him forever.
Make no mistake men have forever loved sex, but so do women. In fact, most women’s sex drive is as strong as men’s sex drive, but due to our conditioning men chase it whilst women are encouraged to be a ‘nice girl’ and remain chaste prior to marriage. So, the result is frustrated, sex deprived women and guys that are on a conquest to get their numbers up.
A real connection is what men are looking for. Don’t get me wrong, men want sex (and their quantitative need is probably somewhat in line with yours), but that is not all. We also want something real. If you can balance the two (connection & sex), you will be the woman men adore and the next good one will be around forever.
Humans need to have a sense of connection with other humans. If you first base your relationship on this simple premise, life will be good.
Remember, you have to love yourself before anyone can truly love you. Don’t devote so much energy to him, that you deprive yourself. Although men love this early on (it is of course flattering), they’ll tire of it in the long run.
Remember, there are many potential connections between a man and a woman – spiritual, emotional, sexual, physical (like similar activity interests), etcetera. When it comes to these connections between you and your man, the more connections you have the better off you will be.
The woman men adore is YOU if you are mindful of all these things. Remember, all he needs is for you to be a raving fan and love him unconditionally. Do this, and you both will be happy as long as you keep your identity in tact and do not lose touch with who you are. This is part of the recipe to getting him forever.
